Why is expressing difficult?

 

                       

Until, I got into a relationship, I had never actually realized how bad I was at expressing myself, at being vulnerable. I suppose, before that I never exactly needed to. But relationships require proper communication, don't they? And communication requires expressing, the courage to own up what we feel and be strong enough to say them out loud;  which was far more difficult than I had ever anticipated. To work on something like that takes time and I definitely took mine, still am taking it. 

See, I've noticed, that communication, although extremely important, is particularly tricky. We, as humans have sometimes, a knack, for not saying what we precisely want to, which leads to misunderstandings and problems. Nobody wants that, ever. When it comes to communication between two people - a male and a female especially, there has to be a very specific manner of expressing oneself, since our psychologies are quite contradictory. What is said and what is understood, it's  hardly ever the same. Nonetheless, that is a conversation for a later time. 

However,
the question remains: why is expressing difficult? As simple as the question looks like, it's not. There are several components that contribute in expressing, although it is the mind that puts most of the barriers. We tend to assume the possibilities without even trying. Thinking about the consequences results in anxiety which can hamper with what we want to say. We're all brave at some point in our lives, or at least forced to be. Not all of us are brave throughout, though, eliminating the biggest factor required to truly express: bravery. 

There is a quote, that said, "You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it." I don't know who is the author of this quote, but kudos. It is so true. Eventhough I stated that not all of us are brave throughout, but maybe we don't need to be. Maybe, we need only 20 seconds of it; 20 seconds of bravery to express our feelings and maybe, hopefully, that will be enough.