Growth.

One of the things that I've done constantly since last year, or at least became quite self aware of was growth. Growing as a person. 2020 was a lot of things and one of the things was the need for it. Maybe not for everyone but for those that needed it. I grew tremendously since last year, I don't know if it is visible to others or not, but I have. And it's such a peaceful feeling, that I'm not who I was a year ago. It was only last year that I learnt the importance of growing. The importance of taking risks, getting out of my own bubble, bursting it. 

I have discovered several things about myself, who I am and who I can be and how important it is for me to have boundaries and to respect it when others have it too. To accept parts of myself I have been insecure of for as long as I can remember, it's a feeling I cannot put in words. 

Now, I know, anything said is far easier than it is done. That is completely true and yes, doing anything practically is far more difficult than its theory. But that doesn't mean you don't try. If you're not doing something only because it looks difficult, then it's one more reason for you to do it. Growth can look really exhausting in the short term, but it is so beneficial in the longer term; because once you feel the peace and the security in growth, you wouldn't risk it for anyone or any kind of situation.

So, what does growth look like? 

Growth, in general, differs from person to person. It looks different for each individual. Growth is a process of understanding and accepting yourself as well as pushing yourself to reach your utmost potential. It's not only difficult but also an ongoing process, sometimes, you will fall back and that is completely okay. 

Growth might look like:

• Creating boundaries
• Putting yourself first
• Accepting your flaws and strength
• Taking risks 
• Getting out of your comfort zone
• Realizing things that bothered you before don't anymore
• To stop caring about everyone's opinions

The points given above are only few possibilities of how growth can be seen as, just as I said before, growth is a process; and it's not the same for each of us. Every experience in life, ours or our loved ones always has a lesson behind it. It is severely important to learn that lesson. To implement in our lives and to move forward with it. For instance, you see a friend who is unable to move past temporary negative feelings and does not want to let go and rise above it.

The lesson you learn here is to choose your own peace over such short-lived feelings and people who are ephemeral in your lives. Whether you choose to learn the lesson or not, is up to you.

My point is, you will only grow when you thoroughly understand how important peace of your own mind is and how much power you have given others to make you feel how you do.

It is because of how much I have grown in the last 2 years, 2020 especially that I can actually write a blog like this. It's not easy but I know this will help someone and if not, it will at least help me. If it helps you, tell me. I am here.